Lately I’ve been feeling challenged by God to dig up some stuff from the past and start actually resolving it. Oftentimes we leave loose ends, whether it’s because we have physically moved, or whether we’ve somehow found a way to let certain issues slip by without actually giving them an appropriate closure. I can’t say it’s been easy opening my own can of worms, but I’ve realized that if I want to grow and be free to make better decisions in the future, I have to learn to deal with the past in order to be able to fully let go of it. A part of me really wants to leave it alone, but I know that in reality, “time” doesn’t heal anything. “Time” makes you forget some of it, and sometimes better experiences help cover up what was buried yesterday, but in reality, hurt and regret don’t magically disappear. It’s been extremely difficult, and I’ve only done 1 out of 3 so far, but I’m going to try my best to finish by the end of September.
I’ve heard about the five tasks of dying (don’t worry, I’m not trying to be morbid and I’m definitely not predicting my own passing, I’m only citing this as a source), and they are the following:
Task #1: Ask For Forgiveness
Task #2: Offer Forgiveness
Task #3: Offer Heartfelt Thanks
Task #4: Offer Sentiments of Love
Task #5: Say Goodbye
Except for the last one, tasks 1-4 are really things we ought to be doing while we’re alive and well, whenever we can, as soon as we’re ready, and more often than we remember to. Why should we wait to be at peace right before the time when we’ll no longer be here to enjoy it? I say, ask for forgiveness when you realize there is a need to be forgiven. Offer forgiveness when bitterness is holding you back from living abundantly. Offer heartfelt thanks whenever you feel gratitude towards someone or something. Offer sentiments of love when you feel loved or when you love someone, even if they might not love you back.